apenado

adj. ashamed; grieved; pained

v. grieve; distress; embarrass; pain

v. grieve, sorrow; distress

adj. punished, penalized, convicted, condemned

v. punish, penalize, convict, condemn

= ashamed, bereft.
Ex: As an ashamed American, I think the responsibility rests on our government, which made sure certain military and state institutions were guarded in Iraq, while completely ignoring all pleas, submitted far in advance, from historians in the US to guard eternal treasures.
Ex: I recalled how bereft we felt when we lost our son and how friends and neighbours rallied round and offered a shoulder to cry on.

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* apenarse = grieve.